the savvy auntie

Today I came across this series of articles and it just hit home:
My Secret Grief: Over 35, Single and Childless

Here’s the entire blog series:
Savvy Auntie 

Not much more I can add to what the author has already said.




  1. I was just talking about this with some people this weekend. And coincidentally, I’m posting about something similar today.

    • It’s a subject that should be talked about more so there is better understanding that it’s a fairly common plight that women in their 30’s/40’s suffer and we shouldn’t have to suffer alone or be ashamed in admitting it.

  2. Wow. Spot. On. I could have written it myself. Thanks for sharing!

    • I know you are having these same feelings. We’ve both talked about it a lot. It doesn’t ease the grief, but there is some consolation that we’re not alone in this.

      This passage resonated the most with me:
      “Let me be clear. When you’re over 35 and heartbroken over a breakup with the guy who you hoped would be ‘the one’ or haven’t had a good date in a while or watch your close friends go on to their second or third pregnancy, it’s hard. It’s disarming. And sometimes, it’s unbearable.

      I’ve always loved being around babies. I couldn’t get enough of my own newborn nieces and nephew. Not having my own, I felt like the world, in one big swoop, was moving forward and I was being held back.”

      Every day, hell, every minute I move closer to acceptance of my situation. I haven’t given up all hope, but I am more at ease with knowing that my life now is what my life may be and probably be in 10 or 15 years and forever. I have a friend who is in her early-40s. She’s admitted that like this author, once she turned 40 it became easier (less painful) being single and childless. She’s come to accept that this is her life. It could change in a heartbeat at any moment, but if this is going to be her life forever, then she will be happy making the most of it that she can.

      As I am one week away from my 37th birthday, I hope that I’ll come closer to that inner peace with what my life is and will be (especially if it is without significant other and/or children).

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