labels, so many labels
There is a new book out that a woman wrote about seeking the one and navigating single life without losing your mind. I didn’t include the book title here because I am not here to endorse it, nor am I ever going to read it. After interviewing over a 100 women, the author began to think that most of them fit into one of 12 categories, which she defined as listed below.
The Soul-Mate Seeker: Someone who is doing everything she can to find The One.
The Phoenix: A woman who recently had a painful breakup and is doing everything she can to rise from the ashes in better shape.
The Organic: She prefers to leave things up to destiny and live her own life rather than hunting for men in any methodical or calculated way.
The Princess-in-Waiting: She is waiting to be rescued by a prince (who sure is taking his royal time).
The Late Bloomer: The rest of her life is on hold while she waits for her future husband to appear.
The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other — her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)
The Wedding Wisher: She suddenly finds herself fantasizing about marriage after a lifetime of not caring about it.
The Town Rebel: She no longer aspires to live the cookie-cutter lifestyle of everyone else in her community, though she once used to.
The Ritual Re-inventor: A woman who wants to get hitched but also feels very strongly about having an unconventional marriage (right down to the wedding ceremony).
The Someday-Mom: She would like to have babies someday, but wishes she didn’t feel so much biological pressure to figure it out fast.
The Slow & Steady: A woman who hopes to marry when the time is right. Meanwhile, she does her best not to cave to the massive pressure she feels from friends, family, and society.
The Trailblazer: A woman who knows married life is not for her, so she’s trying to break a new kind of path to happiness.
Which one are you? I am a combination of a few of these. I start as The Phoenix -> The Slow & Steady -> The Ritual Re-inventor -> The Someday Mom. Perhaps somewhere in there is a tiny bit of The Soul-Mate Seeker (even though I hate the idea of a soul mate, except when it applies to my best friend, and really hate the term The One). I’m not doing everything I possibly can to find him, but I am not sitting on my laurels either.