if it’s over, it’s over, for realz
*I first started drafting this about a week ago, but never got around to posting.
Perusing the various posts that are tagged as “dating”, I’ve seen many about how to get your ex back. Now I am not one to talk about why you should or should not get back together with your ex – I went through two break-ups and reconciliations with the CDB. However, each time it was not me fighting or wooing him back. I don’t think we would have gotten back together those two times had he not been like “I want to see you, I miss you”. I was such a sucker and hope I won’t ever be again.
In my newly enlightened state of *reality*, I can’t say that in the future, if a relationship ends for whatever reason, I would want to go back to it. I don’t think that I would want to take an ex back. I surely don’t think I would go out of my way to try to “win him back.” There’s usually a good reason why you broke up in the first place. You can’t ignore those reasons or think they’ll change. I say this now, being single and far from being in a relationship.
Perhaps it’s just a sign of my age and the fact that maybe, just maybe, I am *growing up*? I’m sure it’s definitely a sign of being screwed over and the residual bitterness I feel (and hope will go away. Scat! I don’t want you!). I’m sure it’s also me becoming more jaded and cautious as each ex-boyfriend gets filed away in the ever expanding file cabinet of “failed relationships”.
I ask of all you reading this, that if I go through a break-up and even consider the idea of going back to him or wanting him back, you will all plan an intervention. Stop me, make me think about it, really think about it, and then talk me out of it. Okay?