honestly, just be honest with us
So often, in relationships, especially those in the newer stage, one or more person is going to be in a different place from the other.
All I ask is that you always be honest with your expectations in a relationship. If you want it to progress, be honest about it. A simple “look, I really like you and I really want to see where this could go” is a nice thing to hear, even if you don’t return the feeling. But then, the recipient of that should return the honest sentiment and reply “thanks, that is really nice to hear, but I am not in a place to be in a relationship.”
And for the love of all things holy, please be honest about the fact that you are seeing other people. No one wants to necessarily find out that they are one of two, three, many people who are dating the person they are. However, with that knowledge, a person can make the decision if they want to continue dating the “multi-dater.”
It’s all about full disclosure. Of course you are going to hear things eventually that you do not want to hear and it may hurt or make you angry. But you will at least be armed with the knowledge you need to decide which way you want to go. I have seen this situation with myself, as well as with my friends. All agree that as long as you are honest with us, we can handle anything you throw our way.